by: Alicia M. Blanco
New Year’s Resolutions have sort of lost their appeal don’t you think? I’ve noticed over the years that a lot of people have gotten really lazy about making them and even worse about keeping them- myself included. On one hand I fully understand why people aren’t as pumped about making a new year’s resolution anymore – it’s because after so many years of broken and unmet resolutions, we don’t want yet another opportunity to let ourselves down again by not following through with fulfilling our set goals.
So I made a little list that will hopefully make keeping your resolutions more organized, concise and most importantly: attainable. I feel like these three resolutions below encompass a range of the typical resolutions we tend to make year after year, but in a more meaningful way. Hopefully this will make them easier to remember and stick to. If we can commit to these three things below, I think we’ll see how all of our other more specific resolutions (i.e. work out more, help out more around the house, eat less junk food, etc.) flow from these three.
In 2015, I will:
1) Love and Honor God more. – I am not the type of person to force my beliefs onto others. It’s just not something I feel comfortable doing. All I can do is live my life and if anyone ever asks me about God, I tell them what I believe. For me, I find that when I love and honor God more, great things happen in all areas of my life. My relationships improve, my opportunities increase, and my problems seem to disappear. When I spend more time with Him in ways such as journaling, attending Bible studies and church regularly and surrounding myself with solid company, my life just seems to have a more steady yet exciting tone to it. It’s as if I have something bigger to look forward to every single day. I am kinder, more relaxed and certainly more loving. I feel like I give better advice when I’m doing things God’s way and exhibit way more patience. I also find that I can refer to scripture to solve my problems. So much significance stems from this single resolution so I really I want to strengthen and build my relationship with God and believe that when I do, many more doors will open in 2015 because all good things come from Him.
2) Love and Honor Myself More. – Of course this includes committing to working out more, eating right, and drinking more water throughout the day. But loving and honoring SELF also means appreciating who you are right in this very moment and giving yourself some more credit. Caring less about what people think, letting go of grudges, forgiving others more quickly; all of these things will SERVE you. Loving yourself also means accepting yourself as you are. Be confident! It means seeing yourself in the way God see’s you (or the people who love you see you.) It means saying “thank you” when you receive a compliment rather than disregarding it. Own it! Loving yourself also means not comparing yourself to others, because sitting and scrolling through social media can drive anyone crazy. You’ll start to wonder why you don’t look a certain way or have the lavish lifestyle someone else has or why your partner isn’t as fill-in-the-blank as your friends’ partners are. The list goes on. All of that is destructive and leads to self-pity and unhappiness. That is no way to love yourself. And when it comes to honoring yourself it means learning how to say NO sometimes. It’s ok to stay in more, drink less, have more alone time and partake in some R&R. You don’t have to attend every single party or night out or work event. You’ll wear yourself out if you don’t honor yourself by saying no and letting go of the fear of missing out. (FOMO) Besides, missing out isn’t thaaat bad.
3) Love and Honor Others More. – Well this is my whole mission with this blog – to encourage more kindness onto others in hopes that it can change the direction of someone’s story and maybe even their life. (Specifically the lives of people who are really struggling with their life.)
I’ll never forget this one time when I was in Vegas with my girlfriends and we were out to eat to celebrate our friend winning Miss Nevada USA. Our server brought out the wrong pizza and it took him forever to come back to our table so that we could tell him. We probably sat there for a solid 20 minutes before anyone came over to our table. I am really big on customer service, so I got a really bad attitude and decided that we should not only eat the wrong pizza anyway, but that I would also complain to the manager so that we wouldn’t have to pay for it AND that they would still bring us out a brand new pizza too. Boom. I felt so big and bad for like five minutes as I listed off my demands in an angry tone. Once I did this though, I felt really dark inside. I felt so bad knowing that our server was probably being scolded in the back. What if this was his only job and he has kids at home depending on him? What if this guy was having the worst day ever and was just waiting for just one more thing to go wrong for him to snap? What if, what if, what it. I started to imagine the worst. It sounds small but it really tore me up inside. I couldn’t enjoy my meal or leave the restaurant until I apologized to the server and complimented him in front of his manager.
Now, I’m not suggesting that we should let people be lazy or walk all over us, but I am saying we should be more careful with our words and attitudes. We can still get our points across in a kinder way. Surely you’ve heard Mother Teresa’s quote, “Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some sort of battle.” …And there are so many people who are suffering silently with their various battles. Whether it’s mental illnesses, depression, addictions or other forms of abuse, there is clearly a dire need for more love and kindness to be poured onto OTHERS, just because. You just NEVER know what someone is enduring or facing alone. One act of love and kindness can be a game changer. I know I’ll never forget that waiter’s face.
Hopefully, in many of the articles that people have shared on my blog, you can see how all of them have this point in common. We live in a world where so much focus is given to beauty, image, money, fame, followers… all such insignificant things. Inner beauty is what matters. How we treat people is what matters. How we serve and encourage others is what matters. When I put more energy into making someone’s day, my day gets better and brighter too. A few suggestions to make someone’s day:
Give out more compliments.
Invite someone eating alone to sit with you. No one should have to eat alone.
Ask someone, “are you ok?”
Buy the coffee for the person behind you at Starbucks.
Leave a nice tip for your server.
Be patient with your server.
Write a thank you card.
Have a conversation with a homeless person.
Smile at someone.
Be more LOVING, period! And if you need a quick reminder of what love is, here you go: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Thanks, Corinthians!
All of these are such easy gestures of basic love and kindness that can move mountains if they spread. I believe we have the power to save lives with this. Since starting this blog I’ve heard too many stories of people who reveal that it was a total stranger who made them feel “seen” or a kind gesture that made them rethink poor decisions. I’ve received messages from people who say it was a single pleasant and unexpected phone call that completely changed the direction of their day or a simple handwritten thank you note that helped them see people differently in the world. The “pay it forward” campaigns all around the world are onto something. It doesn’t take much to love and honor others more and I hope you’ll make this part of your new year’s resolution too.
So go out and love and honor God, yourself and others (in that order) and everything else will fall into place.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!! 2015 IS GOING TO BE AMAZING!!! Thank you for being part of my blog and supporting this mission. 2014 will always be special to me because of it.