COUPLED: Reality TV and My 10 MUST-HAVES in a Man

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Everyone should have a “list” for what they are looking for in a partner right?? So here’s mine.

What I’m looking for in a man:

  • Christian with a strong relationship with God because LOVE IS 1 Corinthians 13:4 & I desire a Christ-centered relationship. (Patient, KIND, keeps no record of wrong doing, etc)
  • Unique sense of humor – I NEED to laugh! I’m a big kid and love laughing at myself, at my man, and with my man. Laughter really is the best medicine!!
  • Athletic/tall build – I’m 5’8” and I love wearing heels and want to still feel small next to him.
  • Amazing family/family oriented – when you date me you date my family. And when I date, I get attached to family rather quickly since I myself am so family oriented. I love big families with kids everywhere! The bigger the better.
  • Foooooiiiine… but yet doesn’t know how attractive he is. AKA HUMBLE.
  • Intelligence is sexy. So is generosity.
  • Must love and want kids. I’m not opposed a man who already has kids BUT I’d LOVE LOVE LOVE to give that gift to my husband one day – our first child, together… that whole experience is something I dream about. I want to be a mommy!
  • Speaking of kids… MUST. LOVE. DOGS too!!!!!!!! Especially my dog, Romeo. Or it’s BUH-BYE papi.
  • Affirms and encourages me in my field of work without being jealous. (The right amount of jealousy is cute though.) *Words of affirmation is key* as it’s one of my love languages.
  • P.D.A is a must –I want a man who cant help but to have his hands all over me and is super affectionate no matter who is looking!!! My other love language is physical touch.
  • Protective – will defend me to no end. I want that “ride or die, Bonnie & Clyde, it’s you and me against the world” type of love. I’m just looking for a best friend, at the end of the day – that’s the best kind of relationship to have.

So lets talk about this whole COUPLED thing. It’s a new dating show on FOX and I am honored to say I am part of season 1! Shooting started in February and ended in March. Its been a week since the premiere and tomorrow is episode two. This is so exciting!! It’s a Mark Burnett Production so I couldn’t pass up the opportunity because Mark Burnett is known for being Christian, and none of his shows are salacious, malicious or defaming in any way. (Shark Tank, The Voice, Survivor)

As for me, I’ve always been in serious relationships (pretty much back to back) and never really just plain dated. After over a year of being single I knew it was time for me to get out there again and start to date. So why not do it on national television? And why not in the Caribbean?

Obviously I can’t share details or give too much away, but be sure to tune in every Tuesday night @9pm on Fox to see if I checked off “my list” and found me a man or not 😉

Be sure to follow along on social media @aliciamblanco throughout the season for behind the scenes pics from the season.

Besitos!

The Inner Beauty Nail Polish Collection

by: Alicia M. Blanco

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This is so exciting! After meeting and working with some amazing at-risk youth for the Miss Inner Beauty Pageant, I felt really inspired by them. As you know, I am a huge fan of The Secret, the law of attraction, vision boards, words of affirmation, and all that jazz!

Sooo, I collaborated with Super Star Nail Lacquer and got to name FOUR colors!

The names I chose in this collection are positive words of inner beauty traits and affirmations – (because the words we say are so powerful!) ((how many times have you heard me say that by now?)).

We have:
– “I Am Happy” – Pink
– “I Am Bold” – Purple
– “I Am Creative” – Blue
– “I Am Confident” – Red

So whenever someone asks you, “what color is that?” your response will have to be, “I Am HAPPY”, “I Am BOLD”, “I Am CONFIDENT” or “I Am CREATIVE”… #boom

And, when you have your nails done and you’re feeling good, you will glance down and remind YOURSELF that you carry one of those inner beauty traits with you.

All of the proceeds from your purchase will go towards funding next year’s Miss Inner Beauty Pageant.

Also, just so you know, these little girls are feeling pretty cool knowing there are nail polishes out there that are being named after them… #cute

***(This collection is DBP, formaldehyde and tolune free) – Aka 3-FREE… Aka not bad for you. ;)*** Products are vegan friendly and toxic free.

Thanks for the support!!

UPDATE: From the initial post date, we sold out of our polishes and made amazing profit for this years pageant. If you are one of my customers and supporters, THANK YOU for supporting inner beauty and words of affirmation!

The Secret That Changed My Life

by: Alicia M. Blanco

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It’s no secret by now that I’m a big advocate for positive affirmations. I mean just look, it’s how I begin every single blog of mine. I intended it to be that way – I want the first thing you see when you glance over at my blog to be an affirmation that I pray will manifest in your day and life!

It’s just second nature to me at this point to wake up and declare things like “today is gunna be amazing,” “I am so happy and grateful now that I have X,Y,Z” (X,Y, & Z being dream circumstances I envision for my life.) Even if I don’t presently have those things, I speak them into existence– as if they already do exist.

I do this because I firmly believe that the things you think about most and talk about most will absofrickenlutely manifest in your life at some point or another. (Even the bad thoughts!)

And I learned all of this from two places: The Bible of course and second, a book called The Secret.

A lot of people are afraid of the Bible because it seems so long, intimidating, dated, heavy, confusing bla bla bla. (I used to think all of these too by the way.) But in time I’ve learned how to read it effectively for MY life and feel so thankful that there are additional tools out there like The Secret (which comes in audiobooks, DVD and hard copy) that help people take control of their lives.

The Secret DVD also introduced the concept of vision boards to me.

Vision boards are so powerful and effective at keeping people “in check” with their thoughts. It’s when you cut out WORDS and images or print off words and images from the internet of your dream life; relationship, career, car, physique, family, EVERYTHING… and paste them onto a poster board. Very #DIY and fun!

I’m so happy that such a huge wave of vision board parties and online vision boards a la Pinterest exist in such a big way these days! Mine is right next to my bed so it’s literally the first thing I see in the morning. The second thing I see in the morning is my mirror that I’ve written positive affirmations on as well- so when I go to wash my face and brush my teeth I am forced to read things like, “you are attracting amazing people, jobs, contracts, opportunities and favor into your life,” and “you are beautiful just the way you are,” and “your dreams have come true. Congrats” LOL. Seems silly but I have evidence that this stuff really works! It’s creepy and cool!

So last night was “dress rehearsal” for the girls competing in the Miss Inner Beauty Pageant and it all came full circle to me when I saw the shirts that they will be wearing for their opening number. You guys… the cutest. The shirts were adorned with their “inner beauty” titles that they each chose for themselves!!!! WORDS that describe who they are and who they want to be.

We have “Miss Joyful” “Miss Generosity” “Miss Outgoing” “Miss Loving” etc… You get the picture! UM I JUST MELT. They are declaring these inner beauty traits for themselves!

IT IS SO POWERFUL that these young girls are clothing themselves in affirmations – words they want to speak into existence for their lives!

I couldn’t be more proud to be part of such a huge wave in the lives of each of these young ladies. I hope this brings a smile to your face and encourages you to take control of your thoughts TODAY, speak positively and expect the best for your life.

One positive thought today, right now, can change your entire day. It may start off small but before you know it you’ll have a huge wave of feeling good all day long. TRY IT.

But take note, the same thing can happen with negative thoughts too. One negative thought can impact the rest of your day… it too can start off small, but then it spirals downward and builds into this huge wave of a mess.

I look forward to the day that YOUR positive thoughts become REAL in your life… ahhh I am honestly just so excited for you! When I first learned “The Secret” back in 2008, I didn’t want to keep it a secret at all. I wanted to run and tell everyone. It changed my life in such a big way and that’s what I want for you. And WHEN it happens for you, I pray you feel compelled to pay it forward and help those around you to recognize the power of their minds.

So I urge you to stop thinking things like “I am ugly” or “today will probably be a bad day” or “my mom will never understand me” or “no one likes me…I will always be alone…” AHHH seriously STOP ITTTTTTTT.

“Thoughts become things. Ask. Believe. Receive” – XO, The Secret.

“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.”-XO, God

So go out and be fabulous today! BE HAPPY. Be giving. Be a boss. Own your very own empire. Declare it. Expect it. And it will come!

8 Traits of an Inner Beauty Queen

by: Alicia M. Blanco

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This past month, I’ve been watching a huge dream of mine come true right before my very eyes. The “Miss Inner Beauty Pageant” kicked off this month and it’s my new baby!

I’ve dreamt of a pageant that’s all about INNER beauty for years. In all my years in the pageant world I can honestly say I’ve been wildly and abundantly blessed because I’ve met some of the most beautiful people (not JUST women by the way) that the world has to offer.

And I’m not talking about the physically beautiful people; I’m talking about the people who radiate from within. From genuine pageant fans and supporters from all over the world (shout out to John Baker!), to outstanding pageant directors and contestants. I gravitate towards the good ones. Thank you, God!

Sometimes though, the women competing who naturally and effortlessly possess that sense of INNER BEAUTY don’t always “win” the big crown in the pageant. It’s heartbreaking to watch someone with so much of that inner beauty I love so much, walk away empty handed.

So that’s why The Miss Inner Beauty pageant means the WORLD to me. The girls range from 7- 18yrs old and are part of the Department of Children and Family Services foster care system. This pageant is an opportunity to increase their self-esteem and encourage them to focus on their inner beaut traits throughout their lives rather than the outer. How awesome is it that they are learning these things at such young and impressionable ages!?

And even though I was coaching and mentoring them this week, I think I was the one who walked away with some new valuable lessons.

In watching and listening to THEM, I came up with this list of 8 traits of an inner beauty queen:

1. She accepts herself just as she is. – The girls were each given a compact mirror to look into and then tell everyone in the group what they loved about themselves. One contestant said, “I love my glasses,” and, “I see a happy girl.” Another said, “My front teeth have a gap, but I like it. It makes me unique.” She’s 8.

2. She doesn’t compete with others. – It may be a pageant competition, but there was absolutely no sense of competing amongst this group. I watched as they made suggestions to one another on how to walk and even offered ideas to each other for the talent competition. I heard, “I love that song! I can’t wait to hear you sing that!”

3. She’s fun to be around. – There was a clear bond and friendship amongst these ladies. They were having fun playing dress up together and even more fun giggling as they learned how to deliver their introductions.

4. She sets goals for herself. – One girl is designing and making her own dress for the pageant because she wants to go to FIDM (Fashion Institute) after high school. Additionally, several of the older girls expressed a desire to go to college and talked about steps to making it happen.

5. She has a generous heart. – I watched one girl give up her dress to her friend simply because it was the only one that fit her.

6. She has an open mind. – The ladies listened to every word I said, eager to learn and apply it. One contestant couldn’t find a gown that fit her body type. Instead of stressing or pouting, she let it roll off her shoulders and said “it’s ok, there’s a dress out there for me, I just know it.”

7. She walks in confidence. – Obviously, part of the pageant entails walking on stage in their pageant gowns. I loved seeing them carry themselves with a new sense of confidence after our self-esteem workshop. (And it appears that the girls are actually most excited for the talent competition! Some will sing, some will dance, and one will even be sharing a poem that she wrote. That takes confidence!)

8. She supports and encourages those around her. – It was a joy to watch the girls cheering each other on as we practiced walking on stage and even help one another try on their pageant dresses. They were complimenting each other like sisters would.

As you can see, nothing on this list was about who had the prettiest face or the best gown or the most money. In the end, none of those things matter. How you treat yourself and others does.

I can’t wait to watch this pageant really take off for years to come. It may be a small ripple in the water now, but I envision it becoming a huge wave later.